According to a Psychology Today, the average person lies at least twice a day; they lie an average of three times in the first 10 minutes of meeting someone; and, more than 70% of the "liars" will tell their lie again.
While 10% of these lies are mere exagerations, a whopping 60% are outright deceptions (most of the rest were lies of omission). Most people lie in everyday conversation to appear more likable and/or competent. And, according to a study at UMass, there is a difference in the way men and women use those lies (although, there appears to be no difference in the quantity of their deceptions). Women are more likely to lie to make the other person feel good, while men lied most often to make themselves look better. While we so often proclaim that lying is "bad", and that the "truth is the best policy", studies indicate that we all do it. And, that most of us don't even realize how MUCH we mask the truth. So, my topic of discussion today is: lies and the liars who tell them.
Now, we all say we hate being lied to, and most will argue that they always try to tell the truth, but if we examine ourselves honestly, most of know this isn't the case. Personally, I try to maintain a somewhat truthful air as I go about my life, but my tendency is to lean towards the half-truths. I'm not a very "good liar", and I try not to express outright falsehoods, but I will, often times, succumb to the motto that "what they don't know won't hurt them". Being typically female, apparently, I resort there when I think the unvarnished truth might hurt someone's feelings. I won't outright SAY I think you look hideous, but I might utter "Oh, you got a new hair cut, huh?! Do you like it short?!"; "Oh my gosh! I hardly recognized you!" instead of "Oh my gosh! You got fat, didn't you?!"...like that. I have to say, I never really think of that as "lying", more like being tactful, but a rose by any other name, as they say, is still a rose. So, this week, Mo Want's to Know:
Why do YOU lie? Do you do it blatantly, or resort to those "lies of omission"? Do you think that if being told the whole truth would only serve to hurt your feelings, you would still want to hear it?
Once again, I hope you will leave a comment here and tell me your opinion on this subject....Honestly. I want the truth!